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Oh goodness I’ve been off my blogging scene for a minute but I’m back today 🙂 I read something recently that focused on what I would call “knowing what you don’t know”. I guess we all want to know what’s in our future. If you’re a person of faith like me, we do just that – hold on to our faith, know that God has a plan, believe and walk in His steps. While that is my walk in life, I’m not going to lie I have times like lately when I want to know what God has in store for me. Am I walking in God’s light? Am I doing everything in life that progresses me forward? As a Child of God am I making Him proud? Could I do more to pour into every relationship that I have with my loved ones? Am I going forward or backwards? The reality is we don’t know. I believe in trying Read More

As the season is upon us, it can be wonderful time to share with others but also very stressful. I almost lost my mind a few days ago, something I had ordered as a special gift for one of my kids I thought was not delivered. As I talked to a friend, he reminded me the reason for this season. It’s not about all of the running around, spending money, etc. He was absolutely right and yes; I already knew it and it’s easy to get lost in the commercialized season. The reason for the season is to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. I’ve never lost sight of that, but I’m blessed and grateful to even have the means to give! One of the key things that we also forget is the holiday season can be a time of survival for many. No, I don’t mean in the traditional sense of having a roof over our heads Read More

I was listening to one of my very favorite gospel songs, My Testimony by Marvin Sapp and it just moved me. It’s critical to not only have a testimony but to share your trials and inspire others. Most of us know as we get older, having an emotional and soul ties is much deeper and gratifying than physical presence. For me through the separation of those ties, I was lost, and it felt like I had fallen, I had failed, it was one of the most challenging situations in my life that I had to prevail. Overcome within my mind, my heart, my work, my finances. While we don’t know it at the time, God is working behind the scenes, covering, and building us up for our testimony. Through the grace of God, I made it through! As I got on the other side, not only did He cover me and give me a testimony, but God delivered me to Read More

Something stuck with me as I start to read Michelle Obama’s new book. She mentions feeling both cautious and bold, but thoughts of “am I Good Enough”. Even as we grow older, we have insecurities that continues to haunt us daily. Yes, we have all the blessings of a wonderful family, friends, a good job, and so forth. But we still have thoughts that we question about ourselves….are we good enough? As a young child, first-generation immigrant, it was difficult to accept my differences. Unknown to my family I was teased a lot in my early years, I questioned if I’m good enough. Do I speak well? Do I dress well? Well let’s be transparent kids can be very honest but in a mean way lol. I didn’t have an issue finding my voice like some kids, but it was definitely a struggle finding my space! I needed the constant reassurance that I did fit, and I was good enough. Read More

We are and have been in the era of Ghosting. The concept of completely going missing all of a sudden. It could happen in any of our relationships with friends, family, partners, etc. It’s hard for some people to face the reality of the situation and communicate so it’s easier to just disappear. It can be very hurtful on the receiving end. One day you’re connecting with someone on a regular basis and the next they have physically and digitally disappeared. If its permanent, make every effort to openly communicate how you feel and the need to disconnect. You have to know if it’s not fulfilling and giving you everything you need. On the flip side there is a need to take a break, not completely ghosting but just a timeout for yourself. In previous Blogs I mentioned personality traits, some of us are introverts and/or extroverts depending on the situation and environment. Like many people, I don’t operate well Read More

Change is essential as we move forward in life, we need to explore, improve, and evolve. Of course, change for the better…not the worst lol. Change and evolution for everyone is different. In our earlier years perhaps, it meant to be organized, effective, start a career, saving, etc. However, change in the second half of our lives may involve being patient, more consistent, rest, and preparing for retirement. The type of change we don’t want to consider is changing to fit a mold, to make others happy, to conform….an uncomfortable change. I once had someone in the universe for many years that would be happy if I was a complete mirror….selfsame. Speak and think alike, well you get the point. It wasn’t until much later in my life that I realized how much I’m fitting this square peg into a round hole. As cheesy as it sounds, I believe in the saying “Be You – the world will adjust”. Make Read More

You ever met a person that is typically “seen” as soon as they walk into a room or crowd? They are bubbly, loud, and fun. Everyone loves their energy and to be honest they thrive from that too. They love “Being Seen”. In the past there wasn’t as much emphasis on Introvert and Extrovert personalities…..well at least to me anyway. But now that’s all we hear about – the need be labeled with a personality trait. Are you introvert, extrovert, or hybrid lol? I would probably be somewhat in between. Some people are extroverts in smaller groups and introvert in larger crowds. Some of us cannot function to our fullest with a lot of noise, a lot of movement – in a pulsating environment. We tend to cave in or surrender to our corners. Does it mean we are having an awful experience – not necessarily. But we moreso interact at a different level….we are more comfortable at a calm, Read More

As most people grow older we start to think we’re done….we’re done building our career, business, our network, our family. It’s too late for me, I’ve reached my limit. My Aunt told me a few years ago that you can make new connections and friendships at any stage of your life. I thought she was crazy. I felt my mind is full, my heart is full, heck my patience is low nowadays. I use to think the family you have is all there is…it’s too late to build new connections. I knew people that had so many cousins and they grew up like siblings and I use to be so jealous. Oh let’s be honest I’m still a little lol. But my Aunt was right. The people I’ve met and connected with in the last few years have had a profound impact in my life. We can sit and talk about nothing or dialogue about the deepest part of our Read More

Are you like me where you think you have all the time in the world? You know – when we think I have the rest of my life, no big rush. Well we all know from experiences, or perhaps living through other people’s experiences……that’s not necessarily true. We try hard to predict our future – plan it in detail the next 5 or 10 years and for some even the next 20 years. But none of it may pan out how we expect. Its great to plan for retirement, save money, buy our forever home, list goes on. But we have to be certain about our current state. What is it that we want to do now? What brings us joy? If you aren’t happy now, what is the point of solidifying 20 years from now. Do some soul searching to figure out what makes you happy now. We all have to be rational and find that good balance of Read More

Life is so hectic – there is always work, family, meetings, activities, bills….I could go on! We do our best to ensure that it’s all ongoing, and no balls are dropped. I don’t know about you but if life doesn’t impact me physically then it impacts me mentally. It’s extremely difficult to keep going and not get stressed or frustrated. All we can do is prioritize and handle life’s situations to the best of our ability. It’s not easy, sometimes it is difficult enough where you don’t want to deal with it all. Take the timeout that you need. It could be as simple as a mental day from work – just take a break to do nothing. In my case sometimes I need a hiatus from something that is stressful, it’s not like I’m giving up but just need break away from it. Take time to decompress, regroup, then get back at it. Go easy on yourself and give Read More